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Jealous Of Your Ex’s Rebound Relationship? Learn How To Use It To Your Advantage

Jealous Of Your Ex’s Rebound Relationship? Learn How To Use It To Your Advantage

You might think it’s impossible to get your ex back if he has found someone else, You almost certainly have the feeling of hopelessness and utter dejection. The pain of a broken relationship is difficult to endure, particularly if another girl is on the scene. Regrettably I’ve experienced this first hand, so I know how you feel. But if you play your cards right and abide by some proven advice, you will find there’s a chance that you could be one of the 90% of people who manage to get back with their ex.

First piece of advice: Never run before you can walk! There are proven tactics you should learn first and without understanding these, you might ruin your chances once and for all. Take some time to take stock of what has just happened and what your real feelings are towards your ex. You need to work out whether you really love him and want him back or whether you are just jealous that he has found someone else before you have. If you are to go about getting him back then you should make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons.

What’s the first thing a woman usually does in cases like this? Scream, cry, shout abuse perhaps? Do you think this would help matters? Well I doubt it would fill him with love and admiration do you? Well make sure you don’t do that then, instead take some time to evaluate your actions and stay away from him if you think that you could possibly get angry or upset in his presence. Ensure you don’t face him until you’ve settled down and can think rationally. You will still be feeling hurt and upset, but you’ve got to keep a level head if you are to have any chance of getting him back again in the long run.

The next step is the most difficult; you need to let him go, at least for the moment. Think of this stage quite literally, he is a boomerang that has to go and find himself before he will find his way back to you. Of course this is no easy task and it will require a huge amount of determination on your part for it to work, just keep thinking about the future goal and it will help. Accept that it’s over between you and allow him to move on. If your ex still has feelings for you, this will worry him. Over the coming weeks, don’t resort to following him or tormenting him with text messages, on the contrary if you can avoid him for a while it would be better. The most important thing is don’t let him think you’re needy, desperate or jealous as these are very unattractive qualities and ones that men hate and run away from. If possible you should come across and independent and mature and this will immediately grab his attention.

Now, the next part is a little complicated. Should you have mutual friends, be sure you don’t spend your time telling them just what a prat he’s been, you must realize that it will get straight back to him. Whatever you do, do not say anything about his new girlfriend, even if she has two heads and a ring through her nose, you will only make him defensive towards her. Keep your opinions to yourself and bite your lip as you could do a lot more damage to your chances than you think and make their relationship stronger in the process.

The next step is where you learn to gradually build up a friendship with your ex: a solely innocent friendship with no strings attached. You need him to begin seeing you as a best friend and confidante. Resist any urge to talk about his new girlfriend or persuade him to leave her at this stage. After you’ve established a solid friendship again, it will be easy to pick up the pieces once his new relationship starts to crumble. Concentrate on using your listening skills during this period and be a friendly should for him to cry on. If you can be positive, kind and supportive this will go a long way in his eyes and he will start seeing what he is missing out on.

If you would like to get your ex back, the next task is vital. Think carefully about what your ex first loved about you. You have to ask yourself: was it my appearance, my smile or my sense of humor? Whatever it was, do you still have it? If not you must focus on retrieving it. You’re going to have to learn how to become irresistible to him again. If you follow the right advice you’ll discover how to accomplish this in no time. It is vital however not to go over the top here. If you turn on the charm too much it will be glaringly obvious what you are trying to do and he will run a mile. Do not flirt with him or this will make him distrust you and pull away and will appear extremely disrespectful towards his new relationship. Be natural and genuine and he will start to see you in a positive light again.

You may think that getting your ex back is not possible but by using the right procedures it’s astounding what can be achieved. If you’re absolutely certain he’s the one for you then it’s worth learning these methods. If you make sure that you follow the proven advice above as well as several other secret tricks, you’ll soon have your ex back in your arms.